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newplanet7:
Or whomever wants to weigh in on any of the subjects.
I know jimmy is a dad and Nab recently is... anyone else?
???1) Discipline
I have tried a many of ways to do this and many have failed.
I was looking for some feedback on others methods of discipline.
Others who don't have kids can weigh in also. Let us know what worked for you when your parents disciplined you.
Marmar:
well...having an alcoholic father who was a drill sgt. in the marines.......a nice stiff beating always set me straight......but then again, look at me now....so I wouldn't advise on using that method......
jedifunk:
how old is your child?
mine is 4, and discipline thus far has been pretty easy... although, i've noticed that my wife & i have extremely different tactics..
usually, i try to explain why its bad/wrong that he did something... like last night, he broke a branch off of a tree to use as a lightsaber... and i had to tell him why it was not ok to harm the tree... after that, he understood better... and even gave the tree a hug!
newplanet7:
--- Quote from: jedifunk on June 10, 2007, 09:32:34 PM ---how old is your child?
mine is 4, and discipline thus far has been pretty easy... although, i've noticed that my wife & i have extremely different tactics..
usually, i try to explain why its bad/wrong that he did something... like last night, he broke a branch off of a tree to use as a lightsaber... and i had to tell him why it was not ok to harm the tree... after that, he understood better... and even gave the tree a hug!
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I have two kids.
Meadow who is 3 in July and Zach who is 5 in October.
I have tried a many ways and the way that I use is similar to yours.
A calm down and listen to me while I explain the reason why it's innappropriate, discipline. I use to raise my voice a few times but...
I found both of them repeating MY behaviors, so that got cancelled with a quickness.
--- Quote from: Marmar on June 10, 2007, 09:31:54 PM ---well...having an alcoholic father who was a drill sgt. in the marines.......a nice stiff beating always set me straight......but then again, look at me now....so I wouldn't advise on using that method......
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I have the same father as you mar. A marine to the gills. He is still a dick to my mom because he knows I won't take his shit now. I had a ton of beatings/verbal abuse when growing up. I went the opposite way of violence so I guess it really taught me something in the long run.
nab:
My daughter is so young (almost 3 months), we're not even into trying to reason with her yet. Discipline in respect to teaching right and wrong isn't even on our radar yet. She's not really responsible for her actions yet.
The hardest thing we've had to deal with so far is not coddling her every time she cries. She is old enough, it seems, to start playing us for attention. Needing to be held at her age is a gimmie, but, needing to be held at all times while awake seems excessive to me. So now we're in the battle to teach her some tough love. When we know that we've both held her and engaged her in play for a while, her pants are clean, her stomach is full, and she's still crying, sometimes we just have to put her down and walk away to get something done. Hard to learn for new parents, but parents who've had kids for a while always kinda laugh when we tell them about this. Any suggestions for teaching babies how to be more independent.
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